My mum doesn't trust me on my phone
Posted Mar 18, 2023 17:30 by anonymous
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She does trust me with basically everything. But when it comes to my phone she really doesn't.
For you to understand, you need to know some things first. Once I (secretly) had an online friend, let's call her Meg. When she found out she read few of our messages and told me to cut contact with her. I of course told her I will, but I didn't. Meg was like a sister to me back then, I just couldn't do it. I still secretly messaged her and we played games together. I spent a *lot* of time with her. Every second I could. Then my mum found out again. We had a talk and I realised a lot of stuff etc. Don't want to give too many details, but basically I realised my mum was right about Meg. So I did cut contact with her.
My mum took my phone for like a week and checked if some other stranger won't message me. Since then I couldn't have a password on my phone and we made some kind of promise that if any of my siblings would see me (or if i would see them) texting with a stranger, they (or I) have to tell her.
It's been almost two years now. There weren't any issues with this and my privacy at all (just so you don't say she's obsessive or something). Everything was perfect. Sometimes we (as a family) would like get into some topic of the internet and my aunt would say "don't talk with people online, you know what happened". I'd always get kind of "angry" or "upset" and tell her that I already experienced it and stuff and that I learnt from my mistake. My mum heard all of that.
Today I went to check something in the middle of dinner to my room on my phone. School stuff. She came and asked "what are you doing?" while checking my phone. There was slight worry in her voice. Later that day she gently asked "do you chat with anyone online? You know you shouldn't do it."
And that kind of hurt me. I know she has every right to be upset about it and to worry. But I thought this was all behind us. I thought she trusted me with this. The hell I've been through after I realised she was right about Meg... and she asks this? I know it's very irrational for me to be upset over this. I just wanted to get it off my chest.
Also I'm not saying all online friends are shit. I'm just speaking of *my* experience and that *I* am not going to risk it again.
Commented Mar 18, 2023 17:36 by anonymous
You're not irrational for you to be upset because your mom doesn't trust you. You can let it go (maybe she didn't even mean it that way idk) or set a boundary to keep her from asking, or anything else, but don't feel like your feelings are irrational.