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My mind never fully processed that what was being done to me was wrong. I was raped but for the longest time I didn’t think of it like that because I didn’t want to. I wanted to block it out and kind of made it seem like what happened was normal.

Posted Feb 7, 2019 16:55 by anonymous
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  • Commented Jul 21, 2019 05:35 by anonymous

    What's next? Get a taser, self defense spray or firearm if they are legal to own and carry where you live. Search kubaton, monkey fist, My Kitty, on ebay and Amazon.
    Take self defense classes to build confidence to say "No", mean it and ready to stand your ground if needed. Martial arts is also a good workout and learn self defense at the same time.

  • Commented Oct 21, 2019 14:17 by anonymous

    My wife was raped 4 times in HS. Since we married she has been raped twice. I tell her it was not rape because it could not happen that many times. She had to be willing.
    She says it was rape so we'll leave it at that. It will happen again I am sure/.

  • Commented Oct 21, 2019 20:29 by anonymous

    This is sad. I know you have to be thinking of what you could've done differently and everyone is supposed to tell you it's not your fault but you can change what you do leading up to that incident from here on or end up like the above poster's wife. Attention seeking behavior and self destructive behavior can make you much more susceptible to this crime. We could educate every man in this country what consent is and everyone has heard the "no means no" campaign. Women need to be educated as well. All women are told is that you say no and he has to stop no matter what. It's not working. Prevention.

  • Commented Jun 9, 2020 15:26 by anonymous

    I hear this kind of thing and I really have a hard time understanding how it is so easily classified as "rape." According to the story, she "gave up saying no" and "let it happen." Then she says she later said "no" at some point. What does that mean? Is it just regret about her at first wanting sex and then not wanting it, or was it actually forced and non-consensual? Is her mind trying to revise what happened because she feels some sort of religious guilt or because she looks back after sex and wonders how she could have gone there (that's totally normal). I guess that I am not a very pushy guy so I usually desist and have never got in that situation with a woman. If they don't seem into it, I take that message right away. And then I find that the woman actually ends up with a guy who is more likely to have been heedless and insensitive and pushed it to a conclusion (and I'm still around and a friend when they get divorced some years later). Here is some news. Guys also feel afterwards - after a woman comes on to us - like maybe they really weren't into it and were just pressed onwards by physical urges that everyone has. Sometimes it happens with a woman who has trailed us around for awhile and who we keep saying "no" to, and then we finally go out with her. Yeah, it makes you feel like next time you should use better judgment. But we don't reclassify it as "rape" in our minds and blame the other person.

  • Commented Aug 14, 2020 14:48 by anonymous

    If you said 'no', and he continued, it was rape. It's technically true that it happened to you, but first and foremost it was something he did. It's not a quality you have, it's a quality he has. He's a rapist. You didn't cause it, and you did what you're supposed to do, when you want to stop. Saying 'no' or 'stop' means that everything after that is about him. "Affirmative consent" is debatable; "no means no" isn't. You need to forgive your former self for what you feel like she did wrong (that she did nothing wrong doesn't mean that you don't have a need to forgive her). I'm not saying that it's an easy or quick process, but it's possible to do, and it's a relief when it's done. I wish you well!

  • Commented Nov 24, 2020 10:59 by anonymous

    giving in is somewhat like consent so it wasn't rape your just being weak willed

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