My ex and I have dated for about 3 months before he decided to leave the relationship, or actually blindsided me for that matter.

I thought our relationship was awesome and we were getting along so well, when the next thing I know, he breaks up with me over the most out-of-the-blue and cliche “it’s not you: it’s me” reason. I was so upset and frustrated that he never even bothered to discuss whatever it was that was bothering him with me before ending it all. He just gave up so easily. The decision to end the relationship was so abrupt and one-sided.

In truth, in the last two weeks we were together, conflict ensued between him and my father. It turns out that he was keeping something about himself from us that conflicted with my father’s principles and values. It personally didn’t conflict with mine, but my dad wasn’t okay with it, and that obviously caused friction between them. My interpretation of it all is that he ran away at the first sign of conflict, because I think his reason for dumping me was complete BS and unconvincing.

It’s already been three weeks since we broke up, and it hurts, however I was healing quicker than I imagined. Just when I thought I was over him, he called back, saying that it was a rash decision and that he regrets doing it. What’s odd is that he’s making it out like I was the one who pushed him away rather than the other way around. Apparently, he assumed that my dad didn’t want him to be with me, and my dad gave him such a hard time that he decided to break it off.

I think what we had was great, and my pride is telling me to let him go and just move on. But there’s this part of me that thinks it ended too quickly, so I’m willing to give it another shot. I’m kind of reluctant and hesitant about letting him back into my life, especially after how easily he ended the relationship at the first sign of conflict.

Do you think I should give him a second chance? Help!

PS: I’m not just going to fall back in his arms, he’s going to have to earn back all the trust I had for him. He needs to give me his word that if we ever decide to end things that it’s mutual.