Howdy y'all. So my sister has cerebral palsy and a couple other disabilities that have made it difficult for her to do the things she wants to do in life, and is currently struggling to figure out what she wants to do. She has tried to take some community college classes but she couldn't handle the stress and workload, and being a perfectionist didn't help. I understand the struggles she is facing, and want to help her in every way I can. I've told her I love her no matter what and I support her in everything she does, and I truly mean it.

She is unable to reciprocate this back to me, even though I know she can. Me going off to college has been hard for her, and shes always been extremely jealous of me throughout my childhood. And she has every right to be. The problem is her jealously has turned into a resentment towards me. Over the past few years, my family has decided to not have her very involved in my life to avoid having a breakdown when they visit me, etc. Thats okay with me because it takes some stress off my family, and makes it easier to spend personal time with my parents.

Unfortunately, she has expressed that she doesn't want to go to my college graduation. This hurts be a lot because if she were graduating, I would do whatever it takes to be there to support her and show how proud I am of her. She sent me a text today saying she wasn't sure if she was going to come, and I told her it would mean a lot to me if she came. She said she would think about it. So I called her and asked her directly why she didn't want to come because it hurts me that she doesn't. She said that she wasn't jealous of me, and that she was "angry that she didn't do dual credit in high school" which was over 4 years ago now. I know that she said that because she doesn't want to tell the truth to my face. I'm afraid if she comes she will ruin it for my family because she doesn't handle me getting attention very well. When she hung up she couldn't tell me she loves me, which hurt a lot.

I don't know what to do. I've worked extremely hard to get my degree and all I want is for her to be happy for me for once. It hurts me so much that she can't be happy for me and support me over one of the biggest achievements in my life so far. Shes ruining her relationship with me, and I try really hard to be supportive even though shes mean to me a majority of the time. I dont want to cut her off because I'm all the family she will have left once my parents aernt here way down the road. I don't know what to do, but I needed to get this out.