Okay but what about when he came to my apartment at 11 p.m. at night and demanded I come outside and refused to leave, even after I told him to leave me alone three times? Was I letting it happen then? When I told him that I didn't want to see or talk to him three times and he said he was coming in to talk to me anyway whether I liked it or not? When he forced me to come out and talk to him, all because he wanted to give me a $500 check to disappear? Was I letting that happen? I don't see how "Come outside. No, leave me alone. NOW." Is letting it happen.


Oh but that's acceptable behavior, isn't it. It's not abuse, right? Because it's him and he's your friend, therefore he can do no wrong. Demanding someone come out and take your $500 check to go away forever or else you'll force yourself into their apartment, and then screaming at them "GET BACK HERE. NOW." when they try to walk away because they aren't taking your bullshit, isn't abuse or harrassment. It's my own fault, right, Luke? Cause I'm just a cRaAaZy WoMaN. I bet if I had shown up at his house and done the same thing there would be outrage, I would be labeled a stalker and a harrasser. But it's acceptable if he does it. Because it's MY fault.


F--k you, Luke. And everyone else who defended him and said he wasn't abusive. What he did was abusive. Trying to pay someone to disappear forever is abusive. Calling someone a worthless parasite is abusive. Telling someone no one would give a shit if they died is abusive. Leading someone on who you're fully aware has feelings for you and making them feel loved and wanted, with no intention to stay, then abandoning them, emotionally abusing them and ghosting after you get what you wanted from them is abusive, and it was NOT my fault.