I’m broke and living at home again because of my health problems, but my sister acts like I’m just a child that chooses to stay at home.
Posted Jul 20, 2019 23:34 by anonymous
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Last year, I went through a break up, moved back in with my dad, got a new job right next door to his house (specialty animal hospital, I had wanted to work there since I was a kid), and then I got really sick. This is where everything went downhill just as I thought my life was getting better.
It all happened so fast—one day I had passed out at work, next thing I knew I was in surgery to have a whole organ removed due to a large mass. I thought it was all over with after The surgery. Come January, I got on my work’s health benefit plan and got off my dad’s plan since I’d be turning 26 later this year. I knew a low deductible plan was suitable for me with all of my recent health problems. My dad said since I was covering that now, he wouldn’t charge me rent since he knew I’d have a decent chunk taken from my paycheck for benefits.
Come March, I learned I had a brain tumor. I actually laughed because it really couldn’t get any worse. I spoke with a few specialists who agreed not to remove it since it doesn’t appear to be malignant, but I am treating symptoms with medications. During this stressful time, my dad and I have struggled to get along, especially since his company of 28 years shut down. So I went to my older sister for advice.
I’m in my mid 20’s (f), she’s 40. She moved out at 17, never went to college, married military guys and popped a couple kids out, and then told me numerous times she regretted it all. She’s always treated me like a child. Her only words to me was,”You’re fucking 25, leave! Learn how to be a fucking adult and pay some bills!” I snapped. I was pretty upset. I told her,”I pay for my education, I pay for my medical bills, and you didn’t have to worry about paying for either of those things on top of rent back in 1995. I don’t even have $40 after paying these bills each month. But I appreciate your input.” She responded with,“Well, I don’t know what to tell you?” So I hung up.
I don’t feel welcome in the house I grew up in anymore because now I wonder if my dad is telling her he wants me to leave. I work full time and go to school full time, while trying to stay on top of my doctor appointments. I’ve been trying to raise myself since our mom died 10 years ago and I’m still getting shit about how I don’t know how to take care of myself. I pay for my car, I pay for my food, I pay for my own shit. I just can’t afford rent. Apparently, I’m a loser because of it.
Commented Jul 20, 2019 23:55 by anonymous
Your sister lacks empathy. Have a heart-to-heart conversation with your dad. I hope you'll be okay.