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I was 11, she showed me sexual videos, is it abuse ?

Posted Aug 15, 2020 03:40 by anonymous
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  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 03:45 by anonymous

    Hi, what thoughts have you had?

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 03:59 by anonymous

    Sounds like you would have preferred some physical stimulus instead of visual.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:11 by anonymous

    Full disclosure: I haven't read your whole post. But generally speaking, if you find yourself asking "is it abuse?" it's not abuse. Victims of abuse are much more sure that something is wrong, and are instead not sure if they should hate their abuser or themselves.

    Mind you, it was definitely LEGALLY abuse. But the law is full of shit.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:13 by anonymous

    “Full disclosure: I haven't read your whole post. But generally speaking, if you find yourself asking "is it abuse?" it's not abuse. Victims of abuse are much more sure that something is wrong, and are instead not sure if they should hate their abuser or themselves.

    Mind you, it was definitely LEGALLY abuse. But the law is full of shit.”

    I agree

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:14 by anonymous

    “Full disclosure: I haven't read your whole post. But generally speaking, if you find yourself asking "is it abuse?" it's not abuse. Victims of abuse are much more sure that something is wrong, and are instead not sure if they should hate their abuser or themselves.

    Mind you, it was definitely LEGALLY abuse. But the law is full of shit.”

    Having now read the story, I still feel pretty confident about my answer. Yes, you feel terrible. That is because our society has spent a great deal of effort telling you that you should feel terrible. Previous generations would've looked at the video, said "ew," and that would probably be pretty much it.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:16 by anonymous

    PS: the fact a 12 year old is talking about "intrusive thoughts" really depresses me. You definitely don't actually know what that term means, and neither did the person you learned it from, I imagine. Remembering that video isn't an intrusive thought. You're 12. Your mind is supposed to be hyperfocused on sex, and it will be, even if the shitbag society you live in is telling you it's terrible and dangerous until you're 25.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:20 by anonymous

    “PS: the fact a 12 year old is talking about "intrusive thoughts" really depresses me. You definitely don't actually know what that term means, and neither did the person you learned it from, I imagine. Remembering that video isn't an intrusive thought. You're 12. Your mind is supposed to be hyperfocused on sex, and it will be, even if the shitbag society you live in is telling you it's terrible and dangerous until you're 25.”

    Far too much focus on age

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:36 by anonymous

    I feel it was abuse. I say that as a male who was groomed for heterosexual underage sex and pornography.
    It starts with pornography or literotica. The next step is to get you involved.
    When I was filmed my sister asked me to teach her about sex and to take her virginity. It was a line from a porn I had already seen. I knew she wasn’t a virgin because I’d already fucked her.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:39 by anonymous

    “I feel it was abuse. I say that as a male who was groomed for heterosexual underage sex and pornography.
    It starts with pornography or literotica. The next step is to get you involved.
    When I was filmed my sister asked me to teach her about sex and to take her virginity. It was a line from a porn I had already seen. I knew she wasn’t a virgin because I’d already fucked her. ”

    So how has this effected you?

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:45 by anonymous

    “So how has this effected you?”

    It’s caused me a life of shame and pain. Loneliness, dysfunctional relationships, periodic impotence, periodic sexual mania, sex offences up to and including rape, periodic pedophilic impulses, unemployment, drug abuse and poverty.
    How’s your karma treating you?

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:56 by anonymous

    “It’s caused me a life of shame and pain. Loneliness, dysfunctional relationships, periodic impotence, periodic sexual mania, sex offences up to and including rape, periodic pedophilic impulses, unemployment, drug abuse and poverty.
    How’s your karma treating you? ”

    Society telling you this is the worst thing ever all the time, both before and after it happened, caused all of that shit. Not what your sister did. Human beings are SUPPOSED to be horny as all hell. Our society is deeply sick with its perpetual wall of "sex isn't everything!!!!" and "it'll be even better if you wait until you're 30!!!!"

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 04:57 by anonymous

    “It’s caused me a life of shame and pain. Loneliness, dysfunctional relationships, periodic impotence, periodic sexual mania, sex offences up to and including rape, periodic pedophilic impulses, unemployment, drug abuse and poverty.
    How’s your karma treating you? ”

    Its been a positive thing for me

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:03 by anonymous

    “Society telling you this is the worst thing ever all the time, both before and after it happened, caused all of that shit. Not what your sister did. Human beings are SUPPOSED to be horny as all hell. Our society is deeply sick with its perpetual wall of "sex isn't everything!!!!" and "it'll be even better if you wait until you're 30!!!!"”

    Girls told not to talk to me. Beaten, outnumbered by other boys, excluded, mocked. Now deeply wounded, my self image broken.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:10 by anonymous

    No abuse, more like a early sex education.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:11 by anonymous

    “Girls told not to talk to me. Beaten, outnumbered by other boys, excluded, mocked. Now deeply wounded, my self image broken. ”

    Yes, exactly! Everyone EXCEPT the people you had sex with abused you. That is my point.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:13 by anonymous

    “Its been a positive thing for me”

    Well lucky you. My name is forever associated with a few notorious incest gang rapes. Because I was the youngest but was seen as a perpetrator not a victim I never got to tell my story.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:15 by anonymous

    “Well lucky you. My name is forever associated with a few notorious incest gang rapes. Because I was the youngest but was seen as a perpetrator not a victim I never got to tell my story. ”

    Alright, THAT is a detail that is kind of important. Your family didn't just introduce you to sex, they introduced you to rape. That's... really a quite different situation. I feel deeply sorry for you. I hope you can find a peaceful way to live one day.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:36 by anonymous

    “Yes, exactly! Everyone EXCEPT the people you had sex with abused you. That is my point.”

    No, including most of them. They were teens and young adults. I was aged from 7 till 13.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 05:42 by anonymous

    “No, including most of them. They were teens and young adults. I was aged from 7 till 13. ”

    In fact 7 was my first penetrative vaginal intercourse. The sexual fondling and grooming had begun when I was only 5.

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 12:59 by anonymous

    “So how has this effected you?”

    Flaccid peni :-(

  • Commented Aug 15, 2020 16:36 by anonymous

    You are fucked up because you accepted the society dogma you should be fucked up. The truth is most of us learned these things that early and most of us are ok. You can be too. Just you dont need to feel like a victim.

  • Commented Aug 16, 2020 14:44 by anonymous

    A 23 year old that shows sexual videos to a 12 year old has definite issues.

  • Commented Aug 16, 2020 14:48 by anonymous

    “A 23 year old that shows sexual videos to a 12 year old has definite issues.”

    When I was 12 years old, if a 23-year-old would have shown me porn, it DEFINITELY would have led to sex. I was a very horny boy with a hair-trigger erection!

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