Obligatory throwaway warning.

This is a dumb problem, but I need some advice.

So I stalk my bf’s social media. It’s a problem and I am getting better. We have had some issues with social media in the past that led to me being like this. We actually broke up for a while two years ago because of social media issues and him being flirty. But that’s a whole nother story.

So I stalk his social media because I want to make sure he’s holding up his end and not being shady. It sounds bad, but I don’t want to be blindsided like I was 2 years ago. He’s been a model bf since all this shit happened.

Anyways, so yea, I look at who likes his shit and who comments on it. Not daily, but every few days.

So there is a girl he is friends with on fb. She’s an ex of his from 13+ years ago. I don’t care that they are friends on fb. He’s said he has her on there bc he is still friends with her brother. Whatever. He’s told me some crazy stories about her and what she did to him and I have no doubt in my mind that he would go back to that. (I think they dated when he was 15ish).

So randomly I see her like something here and there. NDB.

A few weeks ago she commented on something of his. I didn’t think much of it. Her fb name had changed and I looked at her profile and saw her friends list is public and we don’t have any mutual friends. So I thought “cool, he deleted her”.


Then the other day her name came up on people you may know. But it was her actual name and not this other name. I thought at first she had changed it back. I looked at that profile and he is friends with her on that one. The profile pic is the same.


Well I keep seeing her like stuff on his page under the different name. Like, a post every other day or so, sometimes daily. I’ve started checking daily since I’ve noticed this. She also shares a lot of his stuff.


So what happened is she got a new profile, and now she’s stalking him. She’s having to go out and search him and then go to his page.


It’s been going on for a few weeks now. I don’t think he has noticed bc the profile pics are the same so it’s obvious who she is. He probably just thinks she changed her name on the profile they are friends on.


I really want to point it out, but we had a big issue a few months ago about fb and me looking at his stuff “too much”.



So if I bring it up, we will probably wind up fighting. But it also bothers me that she’s out there stalking him. His stuff is too public, but he somehow wound up sharing everything publicly and never changed it back.