I have a decent amount of friends and a couple of bestfriends. One of them is someone I love hanging out with but the friendship we have is different from the ones I had in highschool.
I never spend holidays with her. New Years is coming up and I know there’s no point in making plans because she ends up making excuses to hang out with her boyfriend of 10 years instead. She’s fine hanging out with him and his friends though but she seems to avoid having me over or going to places where he might be at.
I remember her saying that he gets quiet when she invites him out with her coworkers and that he seemed annoyed when her other bestfriend gets really social and loud (which is how I am too)
I’ve briefly met him but never got to know him where as in high school, my girlfriends and I were usually together even if their partner was there hanging out with us and there was never a problem.
I just miss the closeness I felt in highschool, seeing eachother frequently, hanging out on holidays and what not.

Are adult friendships supposed to be like this?