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I just want to keep my baby. It’s our baby.. how could you truly want this. FUCK YOU! for telling me that you wouldn’t be able to handle it. I don’t want to do it alone. I don’t know if anything’s going to be the same after this.

Posted Jun 19, 2019 20:47 by anonymous
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  • Commented Jun 19, 2019 21:24 by anonymous

    No loss...too many welfare kids out there anyway.

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 18:39 by anonymous

    You don't have to if u don't want to

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 18:42 by anonymous

    If you don't want to get an abortion, don't. It sounds like you really want this baby and he sounds like a lazy, selfish asshole. Don't let him make you get rid of it.

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:05 by anonymous

    “You don't have to if u don't want to

    that is very cavalier, Money, jog, housing, loving two parents? God so many things to think of, its not easy dude, or do gooder.

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:06 by anonymous

    “that is very cavalier, Money, jog, housing, loving two parents? God so many things to think of, its not easy dude, or do gooder.”

    Not many men want to marry a woman who already has a child.

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:07 by anonymous

    Does anyone ever consider the child and what their life will be like?

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:09 by anonymous

    “that is very cavalier, Money, jog, housing, loving two parents? God so many things to think of, its not easy dude, or do gooder.”

    People manage to have children all the time. It isn't rocket science.

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:09 by anonymous

    “Not many men want to marry a woman who already has a child.”

    So?

  • Commented Oct 18, 2019 20:10 by anonymous

    “Does anyone ever consider the child and what their life will be like?”

    Yes, the op and other people in the thread have been talking about that.

  • Commented Oct 30, 2019 10:36 by anonymous

    Having an abortion doesn't make you un pregnant. It makes you the mother of a dead child.

  • Commented Nov 15, 2019 11:17 by anonymous

    Don't do it miss. The people who are urging to you to think of the child's future have no idea what that future holds. That child could be and do anything in this world. Your boyfriend is being selfish it's true, and that could make it harder, but noone thinks that the only people who do well in this world come from ideal families. If that were true noone would accomplish anything.
    Your child is special and he or she deserves a chance.

  • Commented Feb 9, 2020 20:29 by TheCajunPhoenix

    Your body, your decision.

    If you don't want to get an abortion, don't get an abortion.

    The guy is an asshole and he will be sorry when you do move on.

    And move on is your best bet.


  • Commented Apr 4, 2020 02:14 by anonymous

    DO NOT GET AN ABORTION!

    It will be the WORST decision of your LIFE!

    Yes you are lucky you got pregnant. If you DO get one, your % of being able to conceive drastically gets reduced.

    I’m sorry he sucks — but he will never grow up.. yes there will be a guy who will want you when you have a kid.

    You have been blessed — take it, be happy that you were able to and 20 isn’t too young.

    And PLEASE don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends or family— pride is a terrible thing. That’s what they (family) are there for, support. You don’t have to go it alone or do things you wish you hadn’t in order to raise and be the beat mom possible.

  • Commented Apr 9, 2020 13:01 by anonymous

    Kids should have both parents. On the other hand I think he made it quite clear he never wants that level of responsibility. You also may never get pregnant again. So I lean to abortion being a *very* serious decision that shouldn't be used as birth control. But this is a Damned if you do, damned if you don't. You have a good chance of fucking up a kid without a father. On the other hand you may end up forcing him n to be responsible. My brother in law was made to have kids when my SIL was going to need an ovary removed. She always wanted kids. He did it for her. She married him because he was fun. Now she has anxiety and panic attacks because she's lucky for him to watch the kids, let alone help discipline and take care of them. She's the only responsible one in her home. So all the stress is on her. Now he works... And helps pay the bills... But that's it. He doesn't manage his money past bills being paid, he doesn't plan and save...He would have been happy living in his parents basement if she let him. She's sideways miserable.

  • Commented Apr 9, 2020 13:06 by anonymous

    “Kids should have both parents. On the other hand I think he made it quite clear he never wants that level of responsibility. You also may never get pregnant again. So I lean to abortion being a *very* serious decision that shouldn't be used as birth control. But this is a Damned if you do, damned if you don't. You have a good chance of fucking up a kid without a father. On the other hand you may end up forcing him n to be responsible. My brother in law was made to have kids when my SIL was going to need an ovary removed. She always wanted kids. He did it for her. She married him because he was fun. Now she has anxiety and panic attacks because she's lucky for him to watch the kids, let alone help discipline and take care of them. She's the only responsible one in her home. So all the stress is on her. Now he works... And helps pay the bills... But that's it. He doesn't manage his money past bills being paid, he doesn't plan and save...He would have been happy living in his parents basement if she let him. She's sideways miserable.”

    To continue, if you want a family, you must absolutely date responsible men, more so than fun, hot, and edgy. Women everyday act shocked when their man, who they know deep down is fun only, runs off when responsibility comes knocking. Just as men classify women as just fun and marriage material. You women should classify men the same way and take appropriate precautions. Do *NOT* think they will change when you accidentally/intentionally get knocked up.

  • Commented Sep 4, 2020 20:22 by anonymous

    It amazes me that the first thing people think with an unwanted pregnancy is "kill it". What about adoption as a worse case scenario? The other posters are on point bringing up the higher probability of you you not being able to conceive after going through a medical operation to remove your unwanted child. Can we get it update on what you decided to do?

  • Commented Sep 16, 2020 21:45 by anonymous

    #1- if he is miserable like his dad, that is a choice he will make. Everyday you have to chose happiness.
    #2- never abort unless you are 100% comfortable with the situation.
    You are young and if you divorce, you can get pregnant again. BUT I will guarantee you, the love you will have for that child will far outweigh the love you had for your husband, should he chose to leave. You will not regret keeping the baby.

  • Commented Dec 23, 2020 11:01 by Naraku666

    if you got the abortion your a fucking retarded cunt, you just damaged your self more so its a good chance you wont have another one again good ridden trash like trump hope you get raped and tied up in area 51

  • Commented Jan 23, 2021 20:57 by anonymous

    Suppose you get in your car with your boyfriend, and you want to go out of town for the day. Suppose that your choices are to drive to the beach or the mountains, but you can't do both. A relationship has many decisions like that. Sometimes it's possible to compromise about things, and for some decisions, there cannot be a compromise. One person gets what they want, and the other person has to give in.

    What I think you are implying in this thread is that if you knew that you and your boyfriend would not be together in the future, you would have chose to have the baby anyway and raise it yourself. Decisions where one person gets what they want and the other person doesn't are difficult anyway. The decision about abortion where the partners feel differently is probably the most difficult a couple can face.

    Don't listen to the anti-abortionists who are posting here. They don't care about you or your situation. They have and agenda and they want to promote it. You have to make the decision yourself. Because ultimately, it is your decision to make.

    Just having to go through this decision process will leave a scar on the relationship. It will be up to the two of you to see if you can heal the scar or not. I wish you the best of luck.

  • Commented Jan 27, 2021 04:33 by anonymous

    This will likely get lost in the noise but if not:
    You have the choice to have the child or not. Only you can choose that, and it is a hard choice to make. Your biological fertility may not matter if you are ok with the idea of adoption, and if it has happened once it is worth consulting an expert to understand the full biological picture.
    The second issue is your partner: you clearly care about him despite whatever fault you think he deserves in the situation. Think about how the different future scenarios would play out for the two of you and your child. If you don't stay together who gets custody? Child support? Will he be ok with his relationships if he is forced to stay? Is he the person you want to stay with if his future plans don't seem to align with yours? It isn't a betrayal of him to think about what is best in the long run for all of you.
    if you can push off the abortion you should, these things take time to think over. You should also be vocal and honest with your partner, this is the type of issue a good relationship needs to be able to navigate and be open about; just refrain from accusations and arguments, stick to simply expressing viewpoints in turns if need be. Whatever you decide it might well be a difficult thing to get over, if you need it consider a support group or other mental health resource; these confession boards can't help much.
    My advice would be to simply remember that there are always other routes to the family you want, you just need to think about and plan the one best for you. Remember that in the long run the people matter far more than this single chance at a child, even if you get your family it may well not be worth it on the other side. I had quite a difficult childhood between divorce parents as have many, this is a choice that only you can make, but it is better to choose a moderate path than an extremely risky utopian path.

  • Commented May 5, 2021 01:19 by anonymous

    Oh, um, Ms. OP...did u forget2 log in? Since u said "if you read my name I was told"... :)

  • Commented May 28, 2021 21:55 by anonymous

    If you don't want to do it, don't do it. You're a human being, you have free will, if you pretend to agree with someone because your afraid of the consequences of not doing so, that's a choice you and you alone decided to make.

    "It's our baby"

    If that's true, you should have considered the possibility that he would feel differently about this situation. You can't just expect people, even your soul mate, to be on the same page as you in any given situation, especially an unexpected situation with a lot of hardship ahead. I'm not trying to imply that you're somehow victimizing him, or that any problems in the relationship this causes are your fault. He clearly doesn't want a family as much as he thinks he does if he thinks pushing the responsibility back will make it easier.

    That's something he'll have to accept, but you can't force him to think differently. For some people, kids are the miracle of childbirth, the fulfillment of passing on something of themselves, and all the other warm fuzzies. What you need to accept (and people who badly want kids have a very hard time accepting this) is that there are people in the world who don't see ANY of that when they think about kids, they think about how much effort it is and how miserable they'll be because they want their life to themself. If kids are that important to you, you need to think long and hard about whether or not you want to be with someone who feels the opposite. Kids aren't cats, you can't make someone who hates them suddenly like them by giving them a box of tiny cute ones. He is NOT going to "come around" once he actually has a kid and change his mind and see it as a miracle, he's going to be exactly the miserable, unfulfilled husk he's worried he'll be, and the relationship isn't going to be a good one.

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