I feel like I cannot count on my friends in an emergency
After I finished college, I had a rough year. My then-girlfriend broke up and started dating one of my friends, and a big friend group just vanished. I felt doubly betrayed but at the end was thankful since it was a deep cleaning that needed to be done.
I have strengthened a handful of friendships after that, which I thought are more “real”. However, today I asked them to be references in my student loan application and they both went silent. A family member one of those friend got into a loan scandal, which makes him very sensitive and I get that. But again, what I asking was them saying this guy won’t run away with your money - actually it probably won’t even come to that. My situation is kind of precarious - if I can’t summon up a large amount of money within the next 7 days, I will get deported. But I haven’t shared this with them. So I can’t put too much blame on them.
I am aware people are touchy about money and friends, but I can’t shake the feeling that I cannot count on them when I really need a friend and there might be a personal cost associated with that, small or large. It makes me want to slowly distance from those friendships and get a new set of friends. Let me know if I am taking this too much to the heart.
Posted Jan 12, 2022 22:24 by anonymous
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