I’m being very biased probably, but obviously that only happens once a person’s experiences come into play.
So anyway December of last year my mom received a kidney transplant. She had been on dialysis for over 5years. The doctors kept telling us she was a great Candidate for a transplant.
My younger sister ended up going through a swap program with someone to receive a kidney for my mom and she donated hers to a stranger.
I knew at the time it all seemed to easy. To get a kidney you need to go through all sorts of screening to make sure you’re healthy enough, which my mom did, and honestly looking back there were so many red flags that were kinda pushed to the side, saying after the surgery we would focus on that.
After the transplant everything has and continues to fall apart. She’s been in the hospital pretty much the entire time since December. Since the transplant she’s gone into heart failure three times(twice I was in the room when she flat lined), her liver failed last week and she’s still under sedation, she has a trach and continues to use a breathing tube. And the kidney she received does not work.
So honestly this whole thing was pointless and I’m trying to stay hopeful but I also have to be realistic and realize there is a huge chance I’m goin to be losing my mom this year.

What has made me decide to not be a donor anymore comes from all of this. They pushed us for this.

I know the argument of someone’s only chance to recover can come from a transplant, but honestly I don’t know how I can trust another doctors opinion of that after all of this.

I couldn’t imagine my organs being donated and then ending someone’s life even more prematurely.

So now I’m just sitting here watching my mother deteriorate in front of me when I’m all reality she could have continued dialysis and still been living a life with us.