I'm in a long distance relationship, we've been physically together for extended periods several times, when we're not together we still do sexual stuff. In 4 years I've never felt unwanted by my girlfriend, she initiates and is usually very open to me initiating too.

During the time I've been with her I actually developed a healthy self-esteem for maybe the first time in my life, the way she complimented, the way she wanted me really made me believe I was attractive.

But the past 2 months... It's gone, she doesn't initiate, she isn't receptive when I initiate. After the first month I asked her what was going on, she said she doesn't feel close or intimate with me. And after 2 months my self-esteem is in the gutter, what makes it worse is that she still has a libido, she still masturbates, reads ero-books etc... Which I've never had a problem with, as long as I have attention I dont care what she does it to, but that fact right now is making me feel like the issue is with ME specifically. That it's me she's not attracted to and tho she reassures me she is I just don't see how. She says she's stressed and depressed about her future which I really understand and I try to support her in any way I can, but she has suffered thru this before and it never stopped her from wanting me.


The physical compliments have also stopped, she is still affectionate, still very sweet, just nothing in the way of looks, no calling me handsome or anything. I am exactly the same weight as when we started dating, my looks are pretty much the same as to when she wanted me.


I'm lost. A big part of me thinks she's already gone, I've had people fall out of love on me before and maybe this is anecdotal but I swear this feels exactly like that. I'm bracing myself for a potential break-up but I swear to god planning your life with a person and suddenly having to do away with those plans and dreams feels awful and scary.