I have a friend who is kind and loyal. She's a good person and a hard worker and it shows in her career. But she's fallen into this rabbit hole of hookups and relationships and it's really not healthy. Like her mood fluctuates a lot based on these things. She'll have brief but intense relationships and when they end she gets sent into a period of intense depression and self-hate, and then a few months later it's another one...

I flippantly brought it up a few hours ago over IM and it was just all bad. I went about it wrong (as in it was kind of flippant), so I can't blame her for not receiving it well. She got pretty angry and aggressive. Maybe I'm bad at discussing these things. I've tried to mention it to her before but it didn't end well then, either, and I just don't know what to do. Whenever I hang out with her the conversation usually just ends up about guys she's talking to, guys she's sleeping with, or guys she's dating and it's just...not good for her. Or for me. I'm not good at this shit. I don't want to phrase it in a way that's hurtful.

This isn't a sl\*t shaming thing, either. There's nothing wrong with enjoying and having sex. But I really do think that this pattern of hers is worrisome, and I'm afraid of interacting with her because either I ignore it and in doing so reinforce it or I bring it up and make her mad at me. And then I second guess myself. Maybe I'm just seeing things...but I have borderline personality disorder and some other things so I'm familiar with these sorts cycles because *I've been in them myself*. I don't even know what to do. Maybe I'm wrong.