I don't feel I am being a good wife and mother
Posted Jun 20, 2018 11:15 by anonymous
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I got married because I got pregnant. It was careless, but it happened. I am now married for two years and our baby is 20 months old. I just don't feel like I am a good wife. I don't feel that I know how to be a good mother either. He is a much better husband than I am wife. I do everything I am supposed to do but I don't like it and I don't want to do it. I am not working because he wants me to be home with the baby.
He has another child with an old girlfriend. That child is four years old. She has gotten over her feelings and wants to stay home. If we changed she will take care of my baby while I go back to work. Right now I am sitting for her during the day. I feel she is much better at being a mother than I am. I don't really want to work so much as I just have a hard time being home with the kids all day. I don't know why I get frustrated. I always thought that staying home would be glamorous.
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Commented Jun 20, 2018 11:51 by cjmckay
It takes a lot of patience to take care of your child.My daughter has three an she works from home 3 days a week.The other two days the godmother does the baby sitting.
I am the Papa an i am still working 5p.m to 2 a.m in the morning.I Papa will babysit when my daughter has a Dr appointment or school activities to go to.So I understand your feeling of constant demands for caring for a child
Commented Jun 20, 2018 12:34 by anonymous
Look for ways to engage your mind with scool or an activity.
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:02 by anonymous
Make the best of it. Seeing both kids develop into healthy, loved people will be your reward.
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:04 by anonymous
work from home
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:06 by anonymous
Don’t be so hard on yourself. You sound like you’re still settling in and I think you’ll be fine x
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:07 by anonymous
why not just say fuck it and tell him. leave him and your kid with the ex and go out and become a hooker. it wont take long before you will e back begging him to be a good wife and mother. hell, by then you will probably be a lesbian too so you can take care of him and her and become their maid
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:08 by TheCajunPhoenix
Tell your husband that you want to work when your child is older and do not accept "No" for an answer.
Staying at home is neither glamorous nor for everybody.
Parenting doesn't come with instructions.
And your husband forgets that he is the other parent, so everything he does is also important for your child's life.
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:08 by anonymous
“why not just say fuck it and tell him. leave him and your kid with the ex and go out and become a hooker. it wont take long before you will e back begging him to be a good wife and mother. hell, by then you will probably be a lesbian too so you can take care of him and her and become their maid”
This is actually pretty sound advice.
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:17 by anonymous
how could you EVER think staying home and changing diapers cleaning the house doing laundry would be glamourus// what world are you in?
Commented Jun 20, 2018 16:21 by anonymous
Maybe the right thing to do is have the ex-gf move in, she can stay at home while you work, and he can nail you both. Win-win!
Commented Jun 21, 2018 02:50 by Wizard
I have never known a good parent who thought they were a good parent.
Commented Jun 21, 2018 03:01 by anonymous
Perhaps if you build a good rapport with his ex and get some parenting tips from her, that might help you. It doesn't sound as if you two have bad blood so maybe by being friends with her, you can gain parental experience and maybe even hang out with her some days instead of staying home all day. Heck, maybe once your child is older, her child could be friends and have play dates together in the future.