I cannot stand my dad’s new wife/my step mom and her son and it’s causing my dad and I to drift apart. What do I do????
Posted Nov 6, 2019 12:36 by anonymous
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My mom died in October of 2017. She was mentally very very sick, we all saw it coming but it still hurt like hell when she actually did it and we found her. My whole life it’s always only been my parents together. They were madly in love and everyone could see it. Towards the end though, her last 2-3 years of being alive, she was so sick of ruined their marriage but they were still together.
My dad began dating someone, we’ll call her Jamie, in March of 2018 so only about 6 months after my mom died. They moved really fast in my opinion because they met online, she lived 3 hours away in a different city and by July (4 months later) she was selling her business that she owned and moved her and her 10 year old son to our city just to be closer to my dad.
My dad is very religious but not the kind where he shoves it down your throat and forces you to think how he does. He’s very respectful and I think he genuinely just finds comfort in it. He’ll tell you his opinion if you ask but he’ll never bring up religion just to start drama. She on the other hand is the shove it down hour throat and make you uncomfortable kind of Christian.
So she was then living 10 minutes from us, at this point it was me (19 at the time), my brother (17 at the time) and my dad living in one house. My dad had been saying he wanted to move for a while since that was the house my mom and him lived in. Fast forward to this year in June they tell me that he found a house he loves and that his offer was accepted but it’s an hour and a half away from where we lived which I was fine with. Then she jumps in and says that she and her son are moving in with us eventually. I think “yeah okay whatever” because she’s a little crazy.
Fast forward again to the first day we’re moving and they tell me that they’re engaged and they’re moving with us and everything. This really hit me hard because my dad has promised me that he would not remarry until my brother was out of the house and I was out of nursing school and moved out of the house.
It’s been 3 months of them living with us and I cannot stand her even more now. She is always home, has not gotten a job since we moved out here which she needs to since my dad doesn’t make AMAZING money, her 10 year old son is so rude to me and my other siblings when they come visit and she never corrects him.
I’m in nursing school and I graduate next December so my dad wants me to live at home to save money while I’m in school which I am so so so appreciative of other wise I’d be long gone living back in my hometown. My dad and I have also always been super super super close like he was always one of my best friends but I feel like him and I are drifting because of my feelings toward her. I don’t know what to do and how to handle living with her for the next year.
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Commented Dec 29, 2019 00:09 by anonymous
Don’t let the fact that you don’t like his new wife affect your relationship with him. It won’t be easy, but make it a top priority. Tell him your feelings often and plan things to do without her., just with him. If you let it get out of hand it will be hard to get it back on track. That’s a relationship you want to keep as good as you can forever. She might be around for a year or 5 or whatever. Hopefully you and your dad will be friends for a lifetime. Good luck.
Commented Feb 6, 2020 09:46 by anonymous
JOB NUMBER 1: "Take Care Of Yourself"
Your father has a temporary or longer-term blindness or addiction to this woman and her dysfunction (as you describe it).
You cannot help him beyond your honest appraisal.
You may consider just moving out and letting him handle this train wreck on his own.
You can call, and visit him and (ugh!) them from time to time.
It is important to be present in their lives to honor your commitment to your family and father.
It is not your job to act as if everything is OK and personally suffer for the fact that it isn't.
The presence of your brother and yourself is probably moderating the worst behavior of your Step-mother and Step-brother.
Living elsewhere may unleash them and lift the blinders from Dad's eyes, so to speak.
Also you can test if you are just quibbling because you have someone new before you had gotten through the heart of your grieving.
Grief and replacement of the one lost isn't always a pleasant, or recommended affair... your father may have muffed this one.
Best of a Good Life to you.
Commented May 12, 2020 13:20 by Book2143
You should let your dad cum it your mouth
Commented May 17, 2020 20:31 by anonymous
“Don’t let the fact that you don’t like his new wife affect your relationship with him. It won’t be easy, but make it a top priority. Tell him your feelings often and plan things to do without her., just with him. If you let it get out of hand it will be hard to get it back on track. That’s a relationship you want to keep as good as you can forever. She might be around for a year or 5 or whatever. Hopefully you and your dad will be friends for a lifetime. Good luck. ”
I’m a Dad in a similar situation and this advice is perfect. He has to work at it too. It isn’t easy, and you don’t have to like her just be polite and respectful and keep things with your Dad close. He will appreciate it and hopefully see your relationship as more important(I know I do).
The energy it takes to hate causes everyone stress including you. If you let it get out of hand everyone loses.
Commented Jul 30, 2020 00:02 by anonymous
video the little prick doing just that--being a prick--then show ur dad and tell him if she don;t start disciplining the little shit you will---you so done with the turd boy getting away with everything.
Commented Mar 17, 2021 13:51 by anonymous
Start making love to your Dad. That will certainly bring the 2 of you closer together. And you don't have a bratty kid tugging at Daddy's shirt tails!!
Commented Apr 9, 2021 09:13 by anonymous
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Commented Apr 25, 2022 07:54 by anonymous
“Some people cheat maybe because they think they cannot get what they want in their partners. It's a bad thing to do, but maybe they are not prepared for rejection when they want something new to try. But of course, this reason does not justify their means. It is really frustrating when you learn that your partner cheated on you,my husband was cheating for some reason i didn't really figured out till date,but all thanks to 'hackingloop' for their investigative and hacking service that helped me gain access to all his phone activities remotely,he was surprised how i was able to confront him with so much proof of his extra-marital affairs. If ever your partner's commitment is in doubt, reach out for 'hackingloop6@ gmail . com', or you can text him on WhatsApp + 1 484 540 - 0785,tell him i referred you. and please keep everyone else out of your relationships. Don't give 'em a head start on their deceit
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Commented Aug 26, 2022 07:08 by anonymous
seduce your dad
Commented Oct 4, 2022 22:29 by anonymous
I think you should get your dad's girlfriend somewhere private and have a serious talk with her and afterwards you and her should have some private lesbian sex to make up. I promise you that will fix things between u all