i am not sure if my father is my biological father. My mother abused me verbally/mentally all my life, my father died, my mother kicked me out, my bf cheated on me, my uncle sexually harassed me, a man 30 years older than me proposed to me.
Posted Feb 1, 2019 13:03 by anonymous
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please read. its a long story but I need to get it off my chest (sorry):
ever since I was a baby, my mother hated me, she didn't breast feed me, she always used to say ''I hate you'' ''I hope you die'' you made my life a hell''. my father used to cook and clean, she never worked, my father used to work for 10 hours, (even though he was sick, his health was becoming worse), then come home and cook. he used to take care of me while all she used to do was spend money.
3 years ago, my father died, in the funeral I met my fathers friend. we started to contact each other. he helped me but he also liked me (even though he didn't say anything at that time but he loved me since then). a week after my father died my mother kicked me out. I didn't have any place to go except my uncle. I went there and he welcomed me In his house, then after a month he started to sexually harass me and when I say no or protest he would beat me with a belt (I still have scars). i used to/still see my mother in the streets. she doesnt care to even say hi.
after staying with him for 2 years I left him and went to a place young people get taken care. I got bullied at school and dropped out because of depression and stress. at those times, my father friend came to the country i live in. he is a business man and wealthy. he proposed to me. i said no.
I met a guy, i liked him a lot, he was the only person at school that didn't bully me. we started to go out for some weeks and we had sex. he is the only person in this life that saw my scars. he cheated on me and told his new gf that i am ugly and that my body looks disgusting. that was 5 months ago.
yesterday, i met my mother, she wanted us to talk. she told me that the reason why she was like that to me was, she said it was because her family forced her to marry my father, that my father abused her and was bad to her. she is a huge liar. i already know the whole story about them. when i was younger my older cousin told me everything (she lives abroad) told me everything. also i know both my father and mother well. i lived with them and could see who abuser is.
this is the real story: indeed she was forced to marry my father, she was forced not to tell my father before they get married. they were both young 18/19, she used to love another man. when she got married to my father she still didn't tell him because if she told him, she was scared that he will kick her out. she used to cheat on him, then my father caught her and she told him everything. my father told her that he doesn't want to force her in anything but she got pregnant with me and that lover of hers left her because of it. so she stayed with my father because she couldnt take care of herself.
there was a time when my mother said she will leave the house, she did that to make my father sad. i was young at that time, i was only 7. my father never wanted my mother to leave me. he wanted me to grow up with a mother. he begged her to stay. she used to play with his emotions. well my father was in love with her.
my fathers friend proposed to me again. should i say yes? i don't like him but i want a better life. i need money, i am tired of this life. i need to rest.
also, i am not sure if my father is my biological father :(
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Commented Oct 21, 2019 04:31 by anonymous
Spend time with him. Tell him honestly you are not so attracted now but are willing to spend time with him and get taken out on a few dates. See if he is cool and if you develop an attraction. Tell him there is no promises. You'll know soon enough
Commented Oct 21, 2019 15:22 by anonymous
“Spend time with him. Tell him honestly you are not so attracted now but are willing to spend time with him and get taken out on a few dates. See if he is cool and if you develop an attraction. Tell him there is no promises. You'll know soon enough”
Good advice I suggest you give it a chance, be careful though, there are a lot of bad things happening in the world, if you are to move to a foreign country lots of things could happen good & bad. Take your time to think n understand him, what he does etc....
Commented Jun 28, 2020 18:09 by anonymous
It really depends on the type of person your father's friend is.
Sometimes you can be in such a bad situation that there is no easy way out. That is where you seem to be now. You've had so many bad things around you that it may be difficult for you to see what is best in your life.
If your father's friend is a good and decent person and if you are honest with him that you are not attracted to him, but you are willing to be around to see how things go, then it might work out. But if you see any warning signs from him then you should leave him at once.
I wish that I had some better advice that I could offer you. Best of luck.
Commented Jun 28, 2020 18:16 by anonymous
Age is not a problem. The problem is when you said "I dont like him..."
Commented Jun 28, 2020 18:53 by anonymous
Sweetheart I know how you feel. My life is similar in a way my mom hated me and I loved her but she would take her Fly swatter to my legs and ass for anything I did that she did not like. And like you I have scars on my back on my legs for life. My dad passed away when I was 8 and thing got even worse with my mom and I. I was the house cleaner the mad and the cook. When I was 12 my mom was dating and man named Peter. He would always touch my body and mom did not care and for his 42 birthday she gave me to him. He Took my virginity with my mom in the same room. After that night she let him have me any time he wanted and it was all the time. My mom and him planned a trip to Europe so I went to stay with my grandparents. And when my grandma seen my legs she got so upset when my mom came back my grandma said I was not going back to my moms. Mom did not give a shit about me but I did everything the cleaning and the cooking and I was Peter’s sex toy. But grandma and grandpa told her if she fights them they will have her arrested for Child abuse. I lived with them for 3 months when I told them about Peter and what mom let him do to me. My grandma was mad at me she called me a whore for letting it happen. Grandpa would defend me and get mad at her and grandma never talked back to grandpa.
One afternoon I was 14 and with grandpa out on the boat and he asked me about what peter did with me I told him and he wanted more details. I noticed he was sticking up in his shorts ling story short he and I had sex for 5 years.
Commented Jun 28, 2020 19:10 by anonymous
“Sweetheart I know how you feel. My life is similar in a way my mom hated me and I loved her but she would take her Fly swatter to my legs and ass for anything I did that she did not like. And like you I have scars on my back on my legs for life. My dad passed away when I was 8 and thing got even worse with my mom and I. I was the house cleaner the mad and the cook. When I was 12 my mom was dating and man named Peter. He would always touch my body and mom did not care and for his 42 birthday she gave me to him. He Took my virginity with my mom in the same room. After that night she let him have me any time he wanted and it was all the time. My mom and him planned a trip to Europe so I went to stay with my grandparents. And when my grandma seen my legs she got so upset when my mom came back my grandma said I was not going back to my moms. Mom did not give a shit about me but I did everything the cleaning and the cooking and I was Peter’s sex toy. But grandma and grandpa told her if she fights them they will have her arrested for Child abuse. I lived with them for 3 months when I told them about Peter and what mom let him do to me. My grandma was mad at me she called me a whore for letting it happen. Grandpa would defend me and get mad at her and grandma never talked back to grandpa.
One afternoon I was 14 and with grandpa out on the boat and he asked me about what peter did with me I told him and he wanted more details. I noticed he was sticking up in his shorts ling story short he and I had sex for 5 years.
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Your grandma was right you are the family whore. And that’s ok you can get passed from man to man.
But you need to start making money from it.
Commented Dec 8, 2020 16:21 by anonymous
What country are u from?
Commented May 8, 2021 10:00 by anonymous
Do what you will, but do not complain if it doesn't work out.
Commented May 31, 2021 18:40 by anonymous
Just get a part time job and move out! Something retail maybe.
Commented May 31, 2021 18:43 by anonymous
“Your grandma was right you are the family whore. And that’s ok you can get passed from man to man.
But you need to start making money from it. ”
She was a child, you pedophile apologist.
Commented May 31, 2021 20:39 by anonymous
“Your grandma was right you are the family whore. And that’s ok you can get passed from man to man.
But you need to start making money from it. ”
Children cannot consent. And you cannot buy consent.
Commented Sep 9, 2021 23:29 by anonymous
“What country are u from?”
why do you ask, it is fake
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Commented Oct 4, 2022 05:51 by anonymous
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