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I am 5’6” and 175 pound up from 160 (and genuinely I would put me under at least somewhat fit/fit-looking) and a few months before our wedding my fiancé tells me that finds me physically unattractive.

Posted Oct 24, 2019 23:35 by anonymous
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  • Commented Oct 24, 2019 23:44 by anonymous

    Are you sure he's the right one? I love my woman regardless. She goes up and down in weight. After 15 years I still give her a good pounding.

  • Commented Jul 1, 2020 02:37 by anonymous

    I would not describe a woman at 5'6" and 175 pounds as somewhat fit / fit looking. I think that you see yourself too kindly.

    First off, I am overweight, by a lot more than you. But I am honest with myself about it. I know that I am overweight. I'll tell people that I am overweight.

    Losing weight is hard, and keeping it off is even harder. I'm not even suggesting that you lose weight. I suggest exercise because it will improve your health, but it won't really help you lose weight.

    I'm am suggesting that you be honest with yourself about being overweight. At 5'6" and 175 pounds, you have a BMI of 28. You are only 11 pounds away from being classified as obese. Own it.

    I would have to hear the exact words that your fiance said to you to know for sure, but it sounds like he was a jerk about it.

  • Commented Jul 1, 2020 03:00 by anonymous

    Move on, there are a lot of men outside who love to fuck overweighted women.

  • Commented Jul 1, 2020 03:08 by anonymous

    “Move on, there are a lot of men outside who love to fuck overweighted women.”

    I would do that with her 175 is not bad, now 200 and up, that’s a pig. I would fuck her at 175 but I wouldn’t take her for relationship - the 100 lbs then I would marry her

  • Commented Dec 22, 2020 16:42 by anonymous

    Curves are HOT! Sticks are NOT!

    Actually I find beauty in so many different types of women and their various different physical attributes. Tall lean women, short curvy women, tiny pixie-like women, strong warrior women, big full-bodied women, average height-average build women, powerful athletic women and on and on the list goes. Soft white smooth skin, warm freckly skin, dark ebony skin, big breasts, dangling breasts small breasts, full round breasts, long lean striated muscle definition, full curvy cuddly softness and all things in between. I love the dimples in some women's lower backs. I love the the curves and flowing lines in others'. I LOVE WOMEN!!!

    45M here and as I grew older, my tastes broadened and I saw beauty in more and more different types of people. I even started to appreciate myself more, which was weird, cos I always did and still do think I'm an exceptionally attractive human being. Just last week I smiled at an absolutely gorgeous, sexy young woman of around 20-25 years old and got a huge smile back. The young lady then turned to cross the road and we broke eye-contact. I happened to look up again as she reached the other side and she turned back, saw me looking again and broke out into an even bigger, stunning smile before virtually skipping off down the road. That and many other occurrences have kept me assured that I'm not just some delusional ageing fool, but am still in the running to be an objectified, judged and scored piece of eye-candy - and that's just fine with me.

    Anyway, there are so many things to love about our partners and their bodies, that to say something like this to a fiance just before getting married should start ringing some alarm bells, or at least be taken as an indication that there are other issues in the relationship. More-likely there are issues with HIM. Could be your partner just has cold feet. Could be something else. Sounds serious enough to look at re-evaluating things, anyway.

    So what I get from this small excerpt of your relationship (and this is obviously just one side of the story, perhaps written while hurting) is this:

    - Your partner has hurt you by saying he's not physically attracted to you. Putting you down. He then says it's your "lack of effort" that is unattractive. Manipulating his original statement and twisting his truths to make himself look innocent and blaming you for his own feelings.

    So he's manipulating you into feeling insecure about your looks, then he insults your character with the "effort" accusation, further lowering self-esteem, all while also denying the effort and hard work you DO put in.

    THIS IS ABSOLUTELY CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR!!!

    He is Minimising, Denying and Blaming! The TRIPLE THREAT all in two little statements.

    He's good.

    Be better.

    There is something else going on.

    He's guilty of something. Find it and fix it or ditch it.

    My 500 lots of 2 cents.





    (that's $10)

    :o)

  • Commented Dec 22, 2020 16:48 by anonymous

    Get over the excuse making, you should be 120 pounds & you know it.

  • Commented Jan 20, 2021 23:54 by anonymous

    “Get over the excuse making, you should be 120 pounds & you know it.”

    Healthy weight for 5-6 is 121-140 and that's not including muscle gains

  • Commented Jan 29, 2021 14:57 by anonymous

    Lady, you can gain as much weight as you want with me and I will go crazy over you. 175, 200, 300, it's all lovely.

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:17 by anonymous

    “Are you sure he's the right one? I love my woman regardless. She goes up and down in weight. After 15 years I still give her a good pounding.”

    he ain't tho. that scumbag man deserves to die in incel in his mom's basement.

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:23 by anonymous

    5 feet 6 and 175 qualifies you as a fat ass. Christ, you're disgusting! You need to lose at least 50 pounds.

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:32 by anonymous

    part1. I find it very rage inducing to see people in the comments talking about your weight instead of reminding you with all evidence you provided that the only problem with your situation is your lack of decently high standards and the man that is having the unfair advantage of marrying you (well thank god maybe not yet). What these weight analyzers are doing is like an ignorant fuck starting to talk about a girl's clothes when she was sexually assaulted! Lady, sorry to be direct but I'm lacking enough time to slip into my point slowly but the man you chose is pure garbage and deserves to die an incel. He's a misogynist and a woman-abuser. You owe it to yourself to throw him out of your life. And like always with such cases, sorry to break it to you directly again but you like all other women who say "but I love him" and hold the ice bag over their bruises, YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE SENSATION OF BEING IN LOVE. That's it! And yes, it's not only being loved that feels great, being in love also feels great regardless of the outcome. Which means you can freely replace that garbage of a scum you call a man with a decent one that greatly respects women and treasures all about them and doesn't see them as objects and still be like "I love him". I promise you, you will feel much better and wanting to be in love will be way more alligned with your situation then too. When you love someone and want good for them you DO NOT see them as objects and their appearance IS NOT what defines your love for them especially the stuff that are either not in your control or very hard to control, not like how easily a dude can shave his face hair for example (which btw is respecting his partner too since face hair on women's fair skin does feel like spikes unless the lady herself told him that she likes that for some strange reason).

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:33 by anonymous

    “part1. I find it very rage inducing to see people in the comments talking about your weight instead of reminding you with all evidence you provided that the only problem with your situation is your lack of decently high standards and the man that is having the unfair advantage of marrying you (well thank god maybe not yet). What these weight analyzers are doing is like an ignorant fuck starting to talk about a girl's clothes when she was sexually assaulted! Lady, sorry to be direct but I'm lacking enough time to slip into my point slowly but the man you chose is pure garbage and deserves to die an incel. He's a misogynist and a woman-abuser. You owe it to yourself to throw him out of your life. And like always with such cases, sorry to break it to you directly again but you like all other women who say "but I love him" and hold the ice bag over their bruises, YOU ARE IN LOVE WITH THE SENSATION OF BEING IN LOVE. That's it! And yes, it's not only being loved that feels great, being in love also feels great regardless of the outcome. Which means you can freely replace that garbage of a scum you call a man with a decent one that greatly respects women and treasures all about them and doesn't see them as objects and still be like "I love him". I promise you, you will feel much better and wanting to be in love will be way more alligned with your situation then too. When you love someone and want good for them you DO NOT see them as objects and their appearance IS NOT what defines your love for them especially the stuff that are either not in your control or very hard to control, not like how easily a dude can shave his face hair for example (which btw is respecting his partner too since face hair on women's fair skin does feel like spikes unless the lady herself told him that she likes that for some strange reason).”

    part2. And please believe me when I say you should be feeling very lucky to have seen his true ugly color BEFORE he gets you trapped and lured in a marriage because now you can easily get rid of him. Getting married to someone who has mentally abused you and made you feel like you hate yourself is a massive mistake on your part. Your body is your business and your doc's. If you like yourself round, awesome! Most women in fact don't like to be bones and skin and there are many I know personally who feel really uncomfy when they're thin e.g. Adele. As long as you're healthy there is no actual need for any modifications to your weight and even otherwise it's still up to you but then your loved ones might try to entice you into losing weight to make sure you will be healthy but NEVER through emotional abuse or making you feel bad. If someone who loves you is trying to do that they make you feel INSPIRED, PUMPED, DETERMINED, EMPOWERED,ENTERTAINED, ENTHUSED, etc. to lose weight. They won't make you feel like shit about yourself or act like they're better than you! They will make you feel they're right beside you and cheering you on to do it. There goes one of the ways you can always use to see if someone's being loving or abusive or if someone cares about you or not.

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:35 by anonymous

    “part2. And please believe me when I say you should be feeling very lucky to have seen his true ugly color BEFORE he gets you trapped and lured in a marriage because now you can easily get rid of him. Getting married to someone who has mentally abused you and made you feel like you hate yourself is a massive mistake on your part. Your body is your business and your doc's. If you like yourself round, awesome! Most women in fact don't like to be bones and skin and there are many I know personally who feel really uncomfy when they're thin e.g. Adele. As long as you're healthy there is no actual need for any modifications to your weight and even otherwise it's still up to you but then your loved ones might try to entice you into losing weight to make sure you will be healthy but NEVER through emotional abuse or making you feel bad. If someone who loves you is trying to do that they make you feel INSPIRED, PUMPED, DETERMINED, EMPOWERED,ENTERTAINED, ENTHUSED, etc. to lose weight. They won't make you feel like shit about yourself or act like they're better than you! They will make you feel they're right beside you and cheering you on to do it. There goes one of the ways you can always use to see if someone's being loving or abusive or if someone cares about you or not.”

    last part. The only things you need to do is 1. Dump that garbage of a man in trash can where it belongs. and more importantly 2. SIGNIFICANTLY INCREASE your self-respect, self-love, self-confidence, determination and your knowledge about your rights and freedoms as a human and as a woman along with your psychological knowledge of love and how healthy people love and how to spot abuse of any kind and tell and face any man that might try to abuse you. And never let anyone use such excuses to abuse you or anyone else such as weight, hair length, your appearance, your comfort as a woman, your performance, etc. For your personal info too, the stats you mentioned means you're FIT. Your BMI isn't even in the overweight category! That man can go eat shit and drop dead in a ditch tbh. He sounds like a typical lunatic retarded musogynist incel. Also for your personal info, there are plenty of men who in fact don't prefer to be with a skeleton and like to have a human to cuddle with and do other stuff with, so 100% women looking like skeletons or anorexic doesn't equal to them being attractive unless the dude was again abusive and wanted to starve her or something or wanted to physically abuse her and with his sick mentality was scared that if the women is healthy eating she could overpower him easily. Either way, chin up please lady! And get rid of that man again. Plenty of decent men who have tons of respect for women, will put women on pedestal and will treasure you and your love for him and want you as their wife for life are desperately waiting to be with you out there, why are you giving yourself away to a scumbag incel that never deserves any woman?! Never accept abuse. NEVER. You owe it to yourself! Imagine you have lovely daughters later and a man who was marrying her told her and treated like that scum is doing you! Would you let your beloved innocent daughter to be abused like that?? NEVER accept abuse and don't be merciful or soft on abusers of any kinds.

  • Commented Jun 29, 2021 18:36 by anonymous

    “last part. The only things you need to do is 1. Dump that garbage of a man in trash can where it belongs. and more importantly 2. SIGNIFICANTLY INCREASE your self-respect, self-love, self-confidence, determination and your knowledge about your rights and freedoms as a human and as a woman along with your psychological knowledge of love and how healthy people love and how to spot abuse of any kind and tell and face any man that might try to abuse you. And never let anyone use such excuses to abuse you or anyone else such as weight, hair length, your appearance, your comfort as a woman, your performance, etc. For your personal info too, the stats you mentioned means you're FIT. Your BMI isn't even in the overweight category! That man can go eat shit and drop dead in a ditch tbh. He sounds like a typical lunatic retarded musogynist incel. Also for your personal info, there are plenty of men who in fact don't prefer to be with a skeleton and like to have a human to cuddle with and do other stuff with, so 100% women looking like skeletons or anorexic doesn't equal to them being attractive unless the dude was again abusive and wanted to starve her or something or wanted to physically abuse her and with his sick mentality was scared that if the women is healthy eating she could overpower him easily. Either way, chin up please lady! And get rid of that man again. Plenty of decent men who have tons of respect for women, will put women on pedestal and will treasure you and your love for him and want you as their wife for life are desperately waiting to be with you out there, why are you giving yourself away to a scumbag incel that never deserves any woman?! Never accept abuse. NEVER. You owe it to yourself! Imagine you have lovely daughters later and a man who was marrying her told her and treated like that scum is doing you! Would you let your beloved innocent daughter to be abused like that?? NEVER accept abuse and don't be merciful or soft on abusers of any kinds.”

    Part 4: Lose some weight, tubby!

  • Commented Jun 30, 2021 04:56 by anonymous

    “I would do that with her 175 is not bad, now 200 and up, that’s a pig. I would fuck her at 175 but I wouldn’t take her for relationship - the 100 lbs then I would marry her ”

    She will only get fatter. There is a pattern.

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