I(20M) get physically ill when looking at my girlfriend (19F) after she revealed her sexual past
Posted Mar 19, 2023 02:26 by anonymous
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I have tried to ignore this gut feeling that I have been getting since my girlfriend told me about her sexual past. I feel like I have to vent somewhere, so I decided to post it here to get some advice.
My girlfriend and I got together less than a year ago; for a great part of our relationship, we seem to get along, have a connection, and are on the same page when it comes to future plans. We went with the flow during the talking stage which lasted 3-4 months: we spent a lot of time together talking and forming a bond.
Recently, the topic of previous relationships was brought up. At first, she mentioned that she had not done anything majorly sexual with any guys before. However, I knew that she used to hang out with her boy best friend for a while and confronted her about it as he denied meeting her recently when she told me she did. Turns out that they had 3 sexual encounters: two where she gave him a blowjob and he came in her mouth/body, and another where he fingered her and they made out.
Since I confronted her, she said that at the time she was not sure that I liked her back so she "just had some fun". After a long conversation, she decided to block him and no longer speaks to him.
However, as we were talking and flirting lightly (talking stage), it does not sit right with me that she was giving head to someone and lied/tried to hide it from me. It feels as if I was her second option. Sometimes when I look at my girlfriend I get literal stomach aches and feel sick when thinking that she was hooking up with someone while talking to me (we spent a lot of hours talking during that stage). Her boy best friend had invited her to his flat to have sex despite him knowing that we were together which was one of the factors why she blocked him.
I have tried to gaslight myself into believing that I was ok with her sleeping with him. However, I realised that it really bothers me. Perhaps it is because I know the person and can picture my girlfriend doing stuff with him in my head. Or perhaps I wanted someone with no sexual/emotional baggage? Maybe both?
Either way, I am not too sure how to feel and what to do at the moment. I would greatly appreciate any comments and thoughts.
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Commented Mar 19, 2023 02:32 by anonymous
Should of encoureged her to see him more . Used pussy feels grate. She would see others too then . Let ger slut out
Commented Mar 19, 2023 12:14 by anonymous
You have to either deal with it or break up.
You're not likely to meet a girl who's never had a previous relationship. And the ones who haven't ate likely to have a reason for it.
Commented Mar 19, 2023 12:20 by anonymous
Virgins over 12 yo do not exist.
Commented Mar 19, 2023 12:37 by anonymous
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Commented Mar 20, 2023 01:59 by anonymous
You’re tripping on a couple fucking blowjobs on fucking three people bro you gotta not worry about that shit dude because you’re gonna be single for a long time if you keep thinking like that. And if you want some pure if I can check dude do you wanna those weirdo fucking guys only want to virgins you need to fucking get your head out of your ass You don’t need to worry about what happened in her past you need to worry about going forward and how you’re gonna lay the pipe down and get her off so she won’t move on from you.i
Commented Mar 20, 2023 02:12 by anonymous
You are an idiot. If you only want to date boring virginal girls then join a church. But I really hope that girl gets away from you. What you are doing to her is controlling misogynistic behavior… toxic masculinity at its finest. She has not NOTHING wrong and it’s just your own insecurity making you look like a jealous fool. Grow up.
Commented Mar 20, 2023 02:17 by anonymous
You sound really immature and naive. What you described isn’t even sex. It’s just fooling around. She’s 19, not 13. That’s about as close to a virgin as you will find these days. My wife fucked a couple hundred guys before me. Guys I know, guys she still hangs out with, and a lot of guys she doesn’t even remember the names of. Now that’s a slut. And that’s not counting the ones she just sucked or got fingered by. And I fucking love it. It turns me on like crazy knowing how much experience she has and she’s amazing at sex too. There’s nothing she won’t do.
Commented Mar 20, 2023 10:41 by anonymous
Let it go, a sexually experienced girl is going to give it up more often and make you cum harder. You WANT a girl who has had some practice.
Commented Mar 21, 2023 00:40 by anonymous
“Let it go, a sexually experienced girl is going to give it up more often and make you cum harder. You WANT a girl who has had some practice.”
Agree. Experienced girls give better head. And head is where it's at, for us as men. I can fuck my girl once, maybe twice a day, and I have to devote time to that, but I can cum from blowjobs 5 times a day, and my girl can suck me off while I'm playing video games or even while I'm attending Zoom meetings for work (microphone and camera off, of course). She wouldn't be this good if she'd started later in life. Those first guys who broke her cherry and let her experiment with sucking their cocks did me a great service. Now I get to enjoyer her!