So my boyfriend and I have been dating for little over a year (I know it’s no that long). We get along AMAZING and have had many great memories, laughs, connections together.

However his family can be a little difficult to be around in the past , but I have always been respectful and got along great with his entire family. But his brothers wife doesn’t like me because I’m “ TOO QUIET” whatever that means (so automatically makes his bro not like me when she’s around) plus they just had a baby so it makes it difficult to connect with my BF lately.

My BF AND I recently just took a trip together, and now I feel he wants space between us. He’s been spending more time with his Brothers family (which I’m happy he’s getting along and bonding with them) but now I feel I’m being put 2nd. He’s told me not to worry about them and that “I shouldn’t apologize since I’ve done nothing wrong”. We don’t see each other every day (since we go to work/school and we both live with our parents still), so when we do hangout we usually try to spend as much time as possible together. Last night though, I had to leave his house early “apparently cuz his dad said so” BUT he went to his brothers who lives 20 minutes ON THE OTHER SIDE OF TOWN.
He could tell I was upset and PROMISED tomorrow we be “our day”, I even asked him if he had anything prior and he said NO. THEN the next day he says his brother is having a party for his nephew (I was a little upset cuz I obviously can’t go) but was happy he wanted to go for support. THEN ALL OF SUDDEN SAYS HE WANTS TO STAY HOME CUZ HE HAS A TON HOMEWORK AND LAUNDRY. But we Snapchat and text all day so I can tell he wasn’t busy and is just hanging out at his house with his dad, I even asked him COUNTLESS times what exactly he was doing BUT never answered and would move our conversation to another topic.

So now I’m soo confused because I totally understand if he wants time to himself, I would respect him 100% if he can just tell me the TRUTH, instead of making up an excuse. He has had trouble talking about being honest of his feelings in the past, and promised to work on it
I don’t know how to talk to him or what to say so I won’t sound needy about wanting some nice one on one time, or more honesty from him. I don’t ever ask for much from him, all I’ve ever ask to be respectful and honest with me(sidenote: I had a rough day due to personal reasons so I really needed some extra comfort from him)

Idk if this post made sense, I just needed to vent. how do I talk calmly to my BF that I want more honesty and for him to pay more attention into our relationship?