To put it bluntly this is what feminism and feminists say. Strip back all the rhetoric and this is what they imply it comes down to.

They say men have hated women, seen them as inferior, lesser, incapable, unfunny, "other", cannot relate to them, bonded more with men while seeing women as merely sexual objects, oppressed women, seen them in negative ways, boys need fathers more than girls need mothers because voys cannot connect nor respect with a woman as much as a man. Through history and today also especially in religious countries. Even non feminists believe religious countries and the past hate women.

Women and feminists who say these things stay attracted to men despite all this, they accept a lot about men, find the needle in the haystack, wish they were lesbians, complain about men and are very woe is me being a straight woman and martyr to the cause, so to speak.

Women are deemed much less sexist about men than men are about women, they are attracted to men physically, sexually and emotionally, they don't see men as inferior nor incapable nor unfunny or anything. They can have male idols, role models, enjoy male lead roles and characters and relate to them.

Women who are sexist about men are so due to backlash against sexism men show towards women. Sexism men show towards women is much less due to merely backlash.

Feminists who say all these things about how bad men are while staying attracted to them are hard to understand. It would be like a black person saying "white people are all racist" and "white people hate black people"...while this black person is exclusively attracted to and dating white people. Everybody would think "hypocritical" and would think if they are that bad surely you'd be put off them as a whole?

I'll give an example of what I mean in this post. Imagine there are two friends who both like each other. But one friend thinks the other is inferior, incapable, lesser, unfunny and only good for one thing. Which friend would most people say likes the other more?