Kind of a long story.

Alright so I go clubbing pretty often, usually every weekend but falling for someone doesn’t always happen for me.. Last month I (23F) went clubbing and I met a cute guy (22). We hit it off so we exchanged phone numbers and followed each other on Instagram. The following week he hit me up to hangout and grab dinner but I blew him off a couple times, maybe three? I even took hours or days to respond to him. Friday night came and I went to my usual spot. He also happened to be there. He called me on FaceTime and asked to meet up only because he saw me there. I was busy with friends and I didn’t know his location so I just left it at that. Eventually, he found me and signaled me over but I ignored him and continued to dance with my friends. I told him I’d make it up to him the next day.

Next day came and we went clubbing again. One thing led to another. I ended up at his place and I gave him head... We met up twice after that and slept together twice. Aside from all this, we actually talked a lot about our life and interests. These talks felt deep and meaningful. What I liked about him was we had these talks both sober and drunk, even before and after sex. We also agreed that we’ve never met each other but it felt like we’ve known each other for a long time. He was super easy to talk to. The only downside now is his responses were diminishing, and it might’ve just been my fault.

On the second night we slept together, I was drunk so I felt courageous and I expressed my feelings. I popped the “what are we?” question and why he wasn’t responsive. I even mentioned how he’d look at my IG stories but stayed quiet. I told him I liked him and I didn’t want to waste my time. (I cringe just thinking back to everything I said.) He said he enjoyed his single life because relationships are too complicated and require a lot of responsibility.. Then told me to ask him again in a month. Fast forward to now, he hasn’t been talking to me lately. I asked him to see a movie with me yesterday but he didn’t bother to respond either.

I thought I felt a connection. :/

TLDR: I developed romantic feelings for a guy I met at a club. I confessed my feelings after hooking up. He ghosted me. I’m having trouble getting over this crush.