My [22,F] boyfriend [22,M] and I have been in a relationship for 4 years.
We started as long distance while he was away at college. For 4 years, I was going back and forth to see him. He would come out for holidays, but that’s about it. He was a broke college kid so I never blamed him for not having the money to randomly come out to see me.

Anyway, fast forward to present day.

Recently he graduated and we’re learning how to live together.
Last week, we got into an argument because I said I want us to start saving our money to take trips together.
He said “I already have money saved “ (by that, he means he invests in cryptocurrency and that’s how he makes some of his money). (((Mind you - we also work for the same company during the day))). Anyway, he continues to tell me how he doesn’t want to spend his 20’s just traveling around America.
He said he wants to become rich first, work his ass off in his 20’s, then in his 30-40’s start traveling around the world. He said “I’m not going to be broke later to travel now”.
I respect him for his decision to work hard, but I don’t want to spend my 20’s working working working. I want to enjoy my 20’s, traveling to new cities and becoming more cultured. Not often, but sometimes.
I think it’s manageable. Especially since we both have jobs, we’re both smart with our money. I think if we each save a small amount per paycheck, we’ll have enough money to take an extended weekend. And not be broke at the end.
A side note about me - I had a hard childhood and was never able to travel, due to overbearing protection of my mother. Around 4 years ago, my mom passed away and that began my journey of finding myself and traveling a lot. This is something I love to do.

Today, he tells me that his old band from college is meeting NEXT WEEK, to record an album. Yet they have been playing together for 5 MONTHS.
IMMEDIATELY, he goes and requests 2 days off next week to go record an album and fly his ass a 1000 miles away.

But for months, I’ve been saying I want a trip, I want a trip, I want a trip.

YET - HIS BAND plans a LAST MINUTE recording session and this boy is ALREADY ON THE PLANE.

But for me to ask to plan a trip with his GIRLFRIEND MONTHS in advance is just too much for him, and he’s going to end up broke.

But a spur of the moment, last minute trip to see his band and record an album is “a once in a life time opportunity”.

I am honestly so hurt right now, and don’t really know how to feel other than hurt. :(