A girl with whom I was seeing a future with told me she wants to explore polyamory; I told her that I cannot do this and told her that she has to make a choice; I feel horrible.
Posted Jun 19, 2019 20:37 by anonymous
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First and foremost; I have nothing against polyamory. I just don’t feel like I’m like that. I was seriously seeing a girl for over a year now. We openly expressed that we love each other. I asked her to be my girlfriend and that’s where she dropped the bomb; it was about a month ago.
I was feeling miserable since then and I decided to put my foot down. I wanted to become exclusive.
She cried a lot because she doesn’t know what she wants. I feel horrible because we planned for so much together...I wasn’t seeing anyone during the entire time we were open because...well I love her.
Now we will talk more tomorrow because she needs to think. I feel horrible and depressed because it seems that I was the one that ruined everything...I feel selfish and I’m gonna lose the most important person I’ve met so far.
I wish that I was also into poly...so then I could stay with her. I had to do the right thing but that thing will make me miss out on a fantastic person.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 14:21 by anonymous
Don't feel bad. It is perfectly fine for this to be a deal breaker. If she agrees to be exclusive, it is unlikely she will be exclusive for life because it is not what she really wants and would be just trying to please you. You can find another amazing person that is willing to commit to you and only you.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 16:52 by anonymous
You can agree or she will eventually start cheating on you. It is in her mind to have sex with others.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 17:16 by anonymous
Show me a man who has not cheated on his wife and I will show you an eunuch.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 17:17 by anonymous
They call it the seven year itch, men seem to look outside marriage for pleasure arond 7 years of marriage.
Commented Oct 14, 2019 13:43 by anonymous
Interesting, it was exactly 7 years when I cheated on my wife the first time. I was having an affair with a 20 year old girl and I was 30. My wife got wind of it and moved out. I went after her and promised to never do it again and we f=got back together. It was 7 years later that I did it again. This time with a 24 YO girl. Then I started doing others, 6 more in fact and it led to a divorce. I was single for 7 years and had at least 15 more women before I found a lady and got remarried. I was faithful for 7 years before I cheated again. Either she did not know or did now and said nothing but we stayed together for a long time.
Then I got a tasted of my own medicine. I discovered she was having an affair. Turn around was fair play. I am divorced again!
Commented Oct 20, 2019 10:15 by anonymous
If she is experimenting with Poly, you can stay in her life as her bf or simply as an ex-bf. If she comes back around to exclusivity, your heart has a chance.
if she doesn't come around, then you got what you wanted, a life of exclusivity....without her in it, if necessary.
Commented Oct 20, 2019 18:34 by anonymous
Just an excuse to want to fuck other guys. If your not ok with that then move on. She will just cheat on you. So its break your heart now or later.
Commented Nov 5, 2019 14:05 by anonymous
You are a fucking pussy you need to let her do it you fucking moron if not you're going to loose her forever so just go along with it and remember this means you get to fuck other people too I mean it's a win win so stop being such a whiny little bitch and let your woman fuck other men
Commented Dec 26, 2019 10:19 by anonymous
What you have is a woman who want to be a Ho. My advice to you is capitalize on it and put that bitch to work. Put a pimp tat on her neck and tramp stamp on her ass dress her so everyone can see it and put her out at the nearest truck stop. Sit back in your ride and wait till she calls you after shes made you your money. Remember you got to be hard on em don't buy this I,m sick, my jaw hurts or my feet sore shit. You got a gold mine and don't know it my friend.
Commented Mar 27, 2020 13:52 by anonymous
You're being stupid. There is nothing wrong with palimony and in fact it would enhance your marriage and sex life. Variety helps keep it alive by teaching you new ways to have sex. Plus, you will get to have other pussy too.
Commented Mar 27, 2020 14:02 by anonymous
Good job, zipperhead. You just put her in the arms of several other men.
Commented Apr 28, 2020 17:32 by anonymous
Just consider that she will become more experienced sexually and will be a better lover later on. I dated my wife when we were both pretty young and didn't have intercourse. When we got together three years later, she told me that she had sex with six guys. At first, I didn't know if I liked that she had been with other men and I was still a virgin, but her sexual knowledge had turned her into the woman that I wanted. We have been married for many years now and I still love my experienced woman!
Commented Aug 30, 2020 09:13 by anonymous
Same thing happened to me. They use poly as a way to be a slut. Best to move on and find a real women. She doesn't love you.
Commented Sep 24, 2020 18:59 by anonymous
Its her way of telling you she's met someone else but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. You've got to let her go.
Commented Sep 29, 2020 17:56 by anonymous
“Just consider that she will become more experienced sexually and will be a better lover later on. I dated my wife when we were both pretty young and didn't have intercourse. When we got together three years later, she told me that she had sex with six guys. At first, I didn't know if I liked that she had been with other men and I was still a virgin, but her sexual knowledge had turned her into the woman that I wanted. We have been married for many years now and I still love my experienced woman!”
This sounds just like my wife and me. We dated during our sophomore year of college but didn't have intercourse. Then she had two boyfriends before we got back together the spring of senior year. I also liked that she was an experienced woman and we have now been married 45 years. She still enjoys sex and lets me know when she wants it. Friends of mine married virgins and they may only get sex a few times a year while we are still doing it at least twice a week. If I need help getting an erection I have her tell me about one of the many times that she was fucked before and it always does the trick.
Commented Jan 21, 2021 02:26 by anonymous
Women come out ahead in a poly relationship because it's much easier for them to find sex partners than it is for men. Her asking that tells me that she is not that much in to you.
Commented Jan 28, 2021 10:50 by anonymous
Palimony is not for everyone but for those who accept it there can be some real benefits from it. Our sex life had gotten very boring for both of us and she had a friend who told her they were in a group for sex. We decided to try it and wow, the excitement was overwhelming,
My wife has now had sex with about 8 or 9 other men including 2 black men and she is getting the best sex of her life. For me, I discovered I prefer being with another man and she is OK with that too. It works for us!
Commented Mar 25, 2021 23:37 by anonymous
Tell her you both have plenty of time and you're open to thinking about poly stuff and that you have an idea that you haven't really completed yet but it's similar to poly.
then tell her that you are thinking so if she asks too many questions you'll lose your focus.
You need to do that in a way that allows you to ask her what exactly about a poly situation attracts her.. I bet her answer is partly she wants a more modern"situation but that if you can get it out of her it's also that she wants to be fucked by different guys.
Learn about Hotwifing and what that's about, It's more than one thing.There's different ways of doing that. Sometimes it has a poly feel to it when doing repeats with a guy.
Things that make it different are "poly" is more formal and there's an implied understanding that its a sort of plural situation but there's commitment But in hotwifing
doesn't work out for whatever reason you can move on or be more flexible and perhaps bot see him anymore at all of maybe a lot less often. Once she gets an idea what you're driving at she may be envisioning something close to that.
IMO hotwifing is much more exciting for both, If you aren't willing to share her it wont work at all..
Commented Mar 27, 2021 22:24 by anonymous
“Palimony is not for everyone but for those who accept it there can be some real benefits from it. Our sex life had gotten very boring for both of us and she had a friend who told her they were in a group for sex. We decided to try it and wow, the excitement was overwhelming,
My wife has now had sex with about 8 or 9 other men including 2 black men and she is getting the best sex of her life. For me, I discovered I prefer being with another man and she is OK with that too. It works for us! ”
You're not in a Poly relationship. She is a slut and you are a fag. Deal with it.
Commented Mar 27, 2021 22:27 by anonymous
“You are a fucking pussy you need to let her do it you fucking moron if not you're going to loose her forever so just go along with it and remember this means you get to fuck other people too I mean it's a win win so stop being such a whiny little bitch and let your woman fuck other men”
LOL sorry dude, but if the Poly relationship is female-led, she gets to bang and incorporate other men into the relationship but the men don't get to screw other women (or men), only her. But you can maybe wank it to pornhub if she lets you Bahahahahahahaha
Commented Aug 10, 2021 15:13 by anonymous
Give it a try. What do you have to lose. Tell her you need her help in finding other poly women.
Commented Jan 15, 2022 00:49 by anonymous
She's a whore, move on.
Commented Jan 15, 2022 02:54 by anonymous
She has the right to be happy
Commented Jan 25, 2022 13:24 by anonymous
It depends. There is poly and there is swinging. Poly means loving other people not just fucking them. Can you share her in that emotional way? In college I could have gone down the poly path, but was not secure enough to do it then. Later in life I did, but only by cheating on my then wife. That is heart breaking because it cannot last. If you can keep it to physical sex only that is something else, but let me tell you from experience, most people cannot have a regular fuckbuddy without developing real feelings toward them. I fell in love four times in 30 years only to loose each one of them because of the lie I lived. I have a friend who is nothing to look at, but he lives with two women in a triad. He and they are happy. At one time that would have been a dream for me. Now, in my 60's I found a woman who completely satisfies me. We have sex almost daily. Our relationship is exclusive because that is the way she is, and I, for the first time since I discovered sex, am satisfied with that. All that said, you can find what you need and want, but it could take a very long time. You are young give honest poly a try (don't be a cuck like some of the commenters). If it does work you could be very happy, if it doesn't you can always go down the other path. Also remember, everyone will cheat if the right person and circumstances present themselves.
Commented Mar 19, 2022 13:23 by anonymous
She has probably cheated, and can't stop.
She is trying to "make it good" by selling you Polyamory.
Her tears are tears of regret that she's fucked it all up, and her solution isn't working.
Commented Jun 27, 2022 04:16 by anonymous
Sorry about the girl, but hey! She's not the only woman in the world who has one. You'll find someone else.
Commented Jun 29, 2022 17:56 by anonymous
She belongs to the streets.
Commented Aug 21, 2022 08:33 by anonymous
If you marry a sex worker, atleast she will bring some money.
Commented Dec 19, 2022 22:21 by anonymous
“Show me a man who has not cheated on his wife and I will show you an eunuch. ”
That's a bullshit.
When you are scared of intimacy, you run from one bitch to another.
But then why to bother with relationship at all.
Commented Dec 19, 2022 22:31 by anonymous
“You are a fucking pussy you need to let her do it you fucking moron if not you're going to loose her forever so just go along with it and remember this means you get to fuck other people too I mean it's a win win so stop being such a whiny little bitch and let your woman fuck other men”
It is you, who is fucking pussy.
He will loose a girl, that is fucking other guys, so in reality he has nothing anyway. She can do what wants even without him and he can find a girl, that likes him.
I don't mind people fucking around - if they want it by themselves. But it is lame to do it just to keep some one.
Commented Dec 19, 2022 22:35 by anonymous
“She has the right to be happy ”
He too and it will not happen with her.
Commented Dec 19, 2022 23:00 by anonymous
“Give it a try. What do you have to lose. Tell her you need her help in finding other poly women.”
He has the self-respect to lose.
He wanted to be exclusive so poly women are worthless for him.
Commented Aug 27, 2023 01:36 by anonymous
How do you know you don’t like poly? Is is selfish because of you without at least trying. I was unsure at first with my wife but after we tried the first time I enjoyed seeing her being pleased and I felt happy.