A girl with whom I was seeing a future with told me she wants to explore polyamory; I told her that I cannot do this and told her that she has to make a choice; I feel horrible.
Posted Jun 19, 2019 20:37 by anonymous
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First and foremost; I have nothing against polyamory. I just don’t feel like I’m like that. I was seriously seeing a girl for over a year now. We openly expressed that we love each other. I asked her to be my girlfriend and that’s where she dropped the bomb; it was about a month ago.
I was feeling miserable since then and I decided to put my foot down. I wanted to become exclusive.
She cried a lot because she doesn’t know what she wants. I feel horrible because we planned for so much together...I wasn’t seeing anyone during the entire time we were open because...well I love her.
Now we will talk more tomorrow because she needs to think. I feel horrible and depressed because it seems that I was the one that ruined everything...I feel selfish and I’m gonna lose the most important person I’ve met so far.
I wish that I was also into poly...so then I could stay with her. I had to do the right thing but that thing will make me miss out on a fantastic person.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 14:21 by anonymous
Don't feel bad. It is perfectly fine for this to be a deal breaker. If she agrees to be exclusive, it is unlikely she will be exclusive for life because it is not what she really wants and would be just trying to please you. You can find another amazing person that is willing to commit to you and only you.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 16:52 by anonymous
You can agree or she will eventually start cheating on you. It is in her mind to have sex with others.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 17:16 by anonymous
Show me a man who has not cheated on his wife and I will show you an eunuch.
Commented Oct 10, 2019 17:17 by anonymous
They call it the seven year itch, men seem to look outside marriage for pleasure arond 7 years of marriage.
Commented Oct 14, 2019 13:43 by anonymous
Interesting, it was exactly 7 years when I cheated on my wife the first time. I was having an affair with a 20 year old girl and I was 30. My wife got wind of it and moved out. I went after her and promised to never do it again and we f=got back together. It was 7 years later that I did it again. This time with a 24 YO girl. Then I started doing others, 6 more in fact and it led to a divorce. I was single for 7 years and had at least 15 more women before I found a lady and got remarried. I was faithful for 7 years before I cheated again. Either she did not know or did now and said nothing but we stayed together for a long time.
Then I got a tasted of my own medicine. I discovered she was having an affair. Turn around was fair play. I am divorced again!
Commented Oct 20, 2019 10:15 by anonymous
If she is experimenting with Poly, you can stay in her life as her bf or simply as an ex-bf. If she comes back around to exclusivity, your heart has a chance.
if she doesn't come around, then you got what you wanted, a life of exclusivity....without her in it, if necessary.
Commented Oct 20, 2019 18:34 by anonymous
Just an excuse to want to fuck other guys. If your not ok with that then move on. She will just cheat on you. So its break your heart now or later.
Commented Nov 5, 2019 14:05 by anonymous
You are a fucking pussy you need to let her do it you fucking moron if not you're going to loose her forever so just go along with it and remember this means you get to fuck other people too I mean it's a win win so stop being such a whiny little bitch and let your woman fuck other men
Commented Dec 26, 2019 10:19 by anonymous
What you have is a woman who want to be a Ho. My advice to you is capitalize on it and put that bitch to work. Put a pimp tat on her neck and tramp stamp on her ass dress her so everyone can see it and put her out at the nearest truck stop. Sit back in your ride and wait till she calls you after shes made you your money. Remember you got to be hard on em don't buy this I,m sick, my jaw hurts or my feet sore shit. You got a gold mine and don't know it my friend.
Commented Mar 27, 2020 13:52 by anonymous
You're being stupid. There is nothing wrong with palimony and in fact it would enhance your marriage and sex life. Variety helps keep it alive by teaching you new ways to have sex. Plus, you will get to have other pussy too.
Commented Mar 27, 2020 14:02 by anonymous
Good job, zipperhead. You just put her in the arms of several other men.
Commented Apr 28, 2020 17:32 by anonymous
Just consider that she will become more experienced sexually and will be a better lover later on. I dated my wife when we were both pretty young and didn't have intercourse. When we got together three years later, she told me that she had sex with six guys. At first, I didn't know if I liked that she had been with other men and I was still a virgin, but her sexual knowledge had turned her into the woman that I wanted. We have been married for many years now and I still love my experienced woman!
Commented Aug 30, 2020 09:13 by anonymous
Same thing happened to me. They use poly as a way to be a slut. Best to move on and find a real women. She doesn't love you.
Commented Sep 24, 2020 18:59 by anonymous
Its her way of telling you she's met someone else but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings. You've got to let her go.
Commented Sep 29, 2020 17:56 by anonymous
“Just consider that she will become more experienced sexually and will be a better lover later on. I dated my wife when we were both pretty young and didn't have intercourse. When we got together three years later, she told me that she had sex with six guys. At first, I didn't know if I liked that she had been with other men and I was still a virgin, but her sexual knowledge had turned her into the woman that I wanted. We have been married for many years now and I still love my experienced woman!”
This sounds just like my wife and me. We dated during our sophomore year of college but didn't have intercourse. Then she had two boyfriends before we got back together the spring of senior year. I also liked that she was an experienced woman and we have now been married 45 years. She still enjoys sex and lets me know when she wants it. Friends of mine married virgins and they may only get sex a few times a year while we are still doing it at least twice a week. If I need help getting an erection I have her tell me about one of the many times that she was fucked before and it always does the trick.