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25M Obese and Short. I hate myself because of my looks and because attractive women don't like me. Can I get opinions on my looks and if I have hope in being attractive enough for good looking women after or am i hopeless cause of my looks?

Posted Jul 21, 2019 15:00 by anonymous
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  • Commented Jul 23, 2019 17:11 by anonymous

    Lose weight for your health and self-respect. And get a good education and job to increase your status. I'm 5'6" but have a Ph.D. and I've had plenty of women.

  • Commented Oct 11, 2019 23:17 by anonymous

    It's not your looks or weight that keep you from getting a girlfriend. It's your attitude. You have unrealistic expectations. Usually when unrealistic expectations meet the real world, lots of pain is experienced.

    Every person has a value in the dating market. If you are tall, fit, good looking, have a lot of money, have good social skills, have a good sense of humor, are a good conversationalist, etc, you have a lot of value in the dating market and you will have a lot more choices than someone who is short, fat, ugly, broke, bad teeth, dress badly, etc. That is the way the world is and you cannot change it.

    In the dating market if you try to date someone who is about at your level you will have lots more success than if you try to date out of your league. If you are a guy who is a 5 in looks and you ask a girl out on a date who is a 9, she most likely won't go out with you. It will just create frustration on your part to even ask.

    You can change your level with enough work. Pay attention to your clothing, your grooming, make sure you don't have bad breath, and try not to behave like a creep. That will move you up, but it still won't let you date 9s if you are a 5.

  • Commented Oct 11, 2019 23:26 by anonymous

    What is horrible about being with a less attractive woman? Seriously, is kissing an ugly girl going to kill you? You're talking like it's a fate worse than death.

  • Commented Aug 10, 2020 18:29 by anonymous

    I don't know...I'm not ugly, but I'm 5'8, hardly tall, and I have a ring of fat around my waist. I've never had problems getting hot girlfriends, and when I say hot I mean HOT, like the kind you would see in a calender in shorts and a tank top on top of a motorcycle. One called me "Her little bear" and another loves to snuggle up to my big belly. (Although it must also be said that some girls don't like the belly.) I think it's your attitude that needs adjustment or, like the others said, lower your expectations because some hot girls require a LOT of attention and you also have to spend money on them, hell, you have to spend money for any kind of girlfriend, that's just the gentlemanly, high-class thing to do.

  • Commented Sep 12, 2020 17:20 by anonymous

    Lose the weight ( get a lap band if you can. You probably qualify) Once the weight is gone you will feel better about yourself. At this point, start working out, and put on a bit of muscle. Again a real ego boost. Plus you will very likely meet someone at the gym.

    If you judge women on looks alone then you likely be disappointed.

  • Commented Nov 20, 2020 10:45 by anonymous

    I’m fat, short and ugly, but it didn’t stop me from getting girls. Since high school until now, my confidence level is through the roof, plus it helps to be charming and I have charisma. Sure, I’ve had myself some over weight girls but I’ve also had thin girls. When I meet a woman for the first time, I’m polite with a little bit of an asshole added to it. Be upfront and honest and tell her your intentions.

  • Commented May 21, 2021 17:19 by anonymous

    I'm tall, OK looking, slim, smart, educated. And I have no problem at all having relationships with a woman who's a '5' (that's a dumb scale anyway, but you know what I mean. Not beautiful.)

    Treat people well, learn what they need in relationships and sex. Be selfish when it's your turn, and make it very clear that especially sexually, you want her to be selfish when it's her turn. Give her her fantasies, buy her a vibrator and enjoy watching her use it. Let her know you like seeing her play with her nipples during sex. Point is, learn what she needs and indulge the hell out of her.

    You'll have a better life with a 3, 4, 5, 6 kind of woman than you ever will with a 9 or a 10. Beautiful women are very often shallow. I've only known one beautiful woman who was genuinely a good person. Those 9 and 10 women feel they're entitled.


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